Related This topic was created to suggest to those facing incarceration how to behave while in custody .NOTE:  This are does not explain how to avoid going to jail.  It is the belief of this writer that those who commit such crimes should face the consequences of thier actions

When I was released from jail I was sure that I was facing the world alone.  I was wrong.  People who knew and loved me then still knew and love me now.  I did lose some friends and that hurt but I drew closer to those who remained supportive.  I began with one friend.  Then, I told my brother and sister why they hadn't heard from me.  Slowly I told people in my life and was surprised at how many people hated what I had done but still cared about me.  My Offender treatment group was another place I found great strength and support.  I attend a group that is very direct and very supportive.  I consider them part of my social network as well.  From the time of release until now, my social network is almost as it was except that I will not visit anyones home who has kids, nor will they bring them when we meet.  Anyone who has kids is very aware of my past and that's how it should be.  Whether or not I am having unhealthy thoughts.  As a parent, I believe it is there right to know.  My social support is a large part of what keeps me safe because I am accountable.  I lived with a secret in the past and in doing so I hurt others.  I refused to live a secret now.

"Lack of social support, in particular, and the accompanying stress on the offender 

has been  identified as a key trigger in sex offense recidivism"

(Levensen & Cotter, 2005)

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